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I'm not a graceful person. I'm not a Sunday morning or a Friday sunset. I am a Tuesday 2AM, I am gunshots muffled by a few city blocks, I am a broken window during February. My bones crack on a nightly basis. I fall from elegance with a dull thud, and I apologize for my awkward sadness. I sometimes believe that I don't belong around people, that I belong to all the leap days that didn't happen. The way light and darkness mix under my skin has become a storm. You don't see the lightning, but you hear the echoes.

Saturday, April 28, 2012

My Fall, My Own


*** found this online  from a Must Read Files on blogspot ... this is just so good and so real ...i have nothing left to say to write down ... i can hear my friend Arlene telling me ... "... until you get it ... he hopes you get it"

Got it. 

Sunday, April 22, 2007


Will You Take Me For Granted? (Women Must Read)

I would like to share this with other women. To make them smile, or rethink their choices, or prepare. And I also want to share this to men, so they would understand...

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behaviour. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve, then heck no, you can't "be friends". A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don't stay because you think "it will get better". You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You can not change a man's behaviour. Change comes from within.
Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs. You should not be the one doing all the bending. Compromise is two way street.
Make him miss you sometimes. When a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him, he takes it for granted.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in our radar but get to know others.

They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them.
Scared of being alone is what makes a lot of women stay in relationships that are abusive or hurtful.
You should know that you're the best thing that could ever happen to anyone and if a man mistreats you, he'll miss out on a good thing.
If he was attracted to you in the 1st place, just know that he's not the only one. They're all watching you, so you have a lot of choices. Make the right one.
The cruelest thing a guy can do to a girl is to make her fall for him when he doesn't intend to catch her fall.

"There would come a time when we have to stop loving someone not because that person has started hating us. But because we found out that they'd be happier if we let them go." -Hamdiy-
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