I like to remember things my own way. how i remembered them, not necessarily the way they happened. I wanted a perfect ending. Now I've learned, the hard way, that some poems don't rhyme, and some stories don't have a clear beginning, middle, and end. Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it, without knowing what's going to happen next. My DeLicioUs ambiguity.
... my other garden ;)
About Me
- Irma
- I'm not a graceful person. I'm not a Sunday morning or a Friday sunset. I am a Tuesday 2AM, I am gunshots muffled by a few city blocks, I am a broken window during February. My bones crack on a nightly basis. I fall from elegance with a dull thud, and I apologize for my awkward sadness. I sometimes believe that I don't belong around people, that I belong to all the leap days that didn't happen. The way light and darkness mix under my skin has become a storm. You don't see the lightning, but you hear the echoes.
Showing posts with label Lola Miles. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Lola Miles. Show all posts
Sunday, October 20, 2013
A grandmother's love ...
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Glued on TV nights ... Soph and I ... we saw this new TVC of McDonald's ... reminded us of my her very young life with Lola Miles ...
In as far as I can remember, in my early 20s, she knowing how involved I was with my career and my travels,and my very looongggg engagement either put in abeyance or on its way to the back door ... my mother explicitly asked me only for 2 things... 1) to get married 2) to give her an apo ... in that particular order :)
Partially, I was obedient.
I was pregnant at 26 (a condition that made me soooo happy and fulfilled as a woman :) ) ... uhmmm but was not considering marriage (which shot up my mother's blood pressure to the highest level and was blatant in questioning my set of priorities and my moral values as an educated decent woman arrgghhhh) ... but the plot of this story is not about me and my controversial (at least according to my mother :) ) ways of prioritization and my unconventional views towards marriage etc etc. My mother knows I've always been radical, as a child, a teenager, an adult .... she put up with that for 36 years :) ... oh well ...
So what does this TVC bring but good old memories of my daughter's childhood well spent with her grandmother. Lola Miles and Sophie ... Sidekick talaga silang dalawa ... from Day 1 onwards till her last day. Her last day, hinatid nya pa ang apo nya sa school bus ... Soph was 9 and in Grade 4 at the Montessori. But the plot of this story is not about that heartbreaking day. This is not about losses but all that was gained from a grandmother's love of her grandchild.
The last 9 years of my mother's life, and the 1st 9 years of my daughter's they were inseparable. From NKP to grade school, field trips, school programs, all Soph's bday celebs, christmases, new years, halloweens, pati flores de mayo ahahah, Lola Miles was with her in her reading and writing exercises, swimming lessons, piano lessons, ballet class, vacations in Pangasinan, Baguio, Tanza and Gensan, sa malls, sa resorts, sa Jollibee, sa Mexicali, at sempre pati sa McDo Umaga hanggang gabi sila ang magkasamang mag-lola. Sa village namin, hindi ako kilala. Pero silang mag-lola ... landmarks ahaha ... village icons LOL .... I was Sophie's Mom and Mila's daughter :)
Too bad ... scanner's not working today in time for this entry. But also not to overpower the TVC, and may be too because all those photos and memories deserve its own page in this journal ... they are just too many prints and imprints ... this mommy is proud to share soon.
Meantime, what can i say ... more than this TVC, but knowing how BIG BIG the LOVE of my Mama to my daughter ... and how beautiful and happy they were together ... makes me wanna be a (rockstar) Nana, too some day. ;)
Labels:
Downtown,
Lola Miles,
Marita Zobel,
McDo TVC,
Petula Clark,
Sophie
Sunday, September 8, 2013
Grandparents Moments
"Shopping spree in Escolta. Birthday parties in our ancestral house in Tanza. My own little bed in the master bedroom. Cabinets full of toys. Home cooked lunch and snacks personally delivered at the doorsteps of my classroom. Dates at the Tennis Club in Rosario. Sunday mass. Hide and seek at the Public Cemetery LOL. Lessons on Japanese Occupation, Philippine folklore and mythology, love for education, and stories of their youth. My scratch free knees and elbows. Tangle –free hair. My fresh and crispy school uniforms. My nannies. Walking First Aid Kit and anti-mosquito repellant. My school bus. My personal security. My Pep squad. Coddlers. Financiers. My first line of defence. My allies. My Fans. So they say I have his sense of humor … I wish I have his pride, too. They say I have her brains, I wish I have her grace. All the perks I got and enjoyed for being the first grandchild. There are no trade-offs with grandparents. Thank you for the love and all the wonderful memories, Lolo Tatay and Lola Nanay. I wish we still have you guys around. Love always --- your Ebey."
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Easy Sunday morning, my daughter and I visiting memorials of Lola Meding (mine) and Lola Miles (hers). Next month, I'm planning to bring her to Naic, for Lolo Tatay. May be jusz a little pep and preps, small old public cemeteries are oh sooooo far far in many ways from upscale memorial parks. I've always planned to have my Lolo interred with Lola but with due respect, it was Lolo's dying wishes to be buried together with his parents.
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